i am still unable to understand, the way the marriage system in India has evolved. Parents go to the bride’s house, select her and ask their kid to marry that gal. god that scks.
having attended two fast track marriages (with guys/gals who ran away from their families to marry), i find the arranged type very confusing and boring.
here we have selection based on the caste system, the status and being a family matter, the choice in between the two to-be-united is ofthe least concern. then their is a kundali(birth zodiac) matching, and the points on this front affect the whole scenario! both need to have a match > 50% (>18/36) to be married. the greater the more better the unison will be !
but somehow, the arranged marriages have worked till now. how? why?
kids didnt had the freedom of selection till now, there were less inter-caste marriages (leave out inter-religion ones!)
and their unison of two beings, bought into different families, different set of circumstances, different surroundings and altogether different behaviours. being single beings, they would have different sets of contacts, different attitudes, et al.
then comes adjustment, one for another. and evrything you say, is the others vote, may be agreeable or not.
if you dont, everthing is on the rocks!
they say marriages are arranged in heaven! god knows, how!